Basically, falling in love is the nature of every human being. When you love, there will always be hope to be loved. However, the reality is not always that beautiful. Many love stories have tragic endings experienced by many people. Not only men, sad love stories are also experienced by many women. It is better to hold back love than to add to the burden of sorrow. Here are seven reasons women prefer secret love.
1. Don’t want other people to know
When the problem of love becomes public consumption, then love will not be as free as usual anymore. When other people already know about your feelings and love for them, many suddenly become ‘knows’ and ‘judges’ of all events or actions you take in matters of your love. So, it’s better that no one knows, right?
2. Fear of being made fun of
For some people, the word mainstay to make fun of people who are in love is very disturbing. Not only that, instead of helping to solve your love problems, usually if other people already know about your feelings, they just use it as a joke for you. Instead of being finished, your relationship with him is getting more complicated!
3. Don’t want to be bothered by the doi’s ‘gossip’ or ‘problems’
Before becoming a lover, you were nothing to him. Secret love is the safest way to love him without having to get into his affairs and life. What can you do? After all, you’re nobody are you? Not only do you bear the burden of secret love, you also bear all the problems or affairs of him again.
4. Shame, Prestige!
The prestige of a woman is second to none. Having the principle of ‘being chased not chasing’ seems to be the best way so that you are not belittled by your partner later. Well , if he finds out you love him first, Wow, shame! You might be considered chasing him first.
5. Doi is too far to reach
Love didn’t arrive. This is also one of the biggest factors for women to keep their love secret. Why is it expressed, if in the end it ends in rejection. The he who has too perfect criteria feels very far to be achieved. Instead of feeling pain twice, it’s better to love him from afar. That alone was enough.
6. Not ready to start a relationship
Rejection is not the only reason for secret love. In fact, acceptance is also one of the benchmarks for women to keep their love only in their hearts. Fear, when expressing love and he also feels the same feeling it will arise a sense of connection. Meanwhile, it feels like the heart is not ready to start. Whoops!
7. Believe in destiny
Surrender is the ultimate way of hope for love. Therefore, keeping love secretly is a testament to belief in destiny. If it’s a match, no matter how far the steps will definitely meet, but if it’s the other way around then even though love has been revealed, it certainly won’t be together. So, it’s better to keep love secret, right?
Either way, love can never go wrong. Expressed or kept in the heart, love will never decrease in value. Bela, which one do you prefer? Love secretly or reveal it openly to him?
